The Hezhe people basically practice monogamy and exogamy, but in the past, a few people practiced polygamy. According to traditional customs, the Hezhe people often select the best sons-in-law through wrestling competitions, skiing and archery, setting up ambushes, fishing, hunting and other activities. Mate selection criteria In the late Qing Dynasty, the form of marriage was engagement. This was due to the influence of the Manchu and Han peoples, but the criteria for parents on both sides to choose spouses for their children were not based on the main condition of being well-matched, but on good labor. The man was required to be an expert in fishing and hunting. Or when eating barbecue, the young man could cut a "Shuoneng" (barbecue fork) with one knife. There were also martial arts competitions to select sons-in-law. The man required the woman to be smart and virtuous, have good craftsmanship, and be an expert in labor. Appearance was not the main criterion for selecting a daughter-in-law. After the wedding and engagement, the groom wore a robe with red and green on it. The bride wore a red jacket and red pants, and her braids were changed from single braids to double braids. She tied a bun behind her head, wore a flower on her head, and then covered her head with a red cloth. The weddings of the Hezhe people are solemn and are mostly held at dawn. When welcoming the bride, the bride is carried by her brother-in-law or brother-in-law to a sleigh or float with a colorful tent. When leaving the house, the bride must cry to express her farewell to her parents' home. The wedding procession brings dowry items "made of birch bark as baskets and wooden ladles" to accompany the bride to her husband's home. After drinking wine, worshipping heaven and earth, and entering the bridal chamber, the elderly among the relatives and friends hold three reeds tied together with three red cloths and give a lecture to the bride, asking her to be filial to her parents, respect her husband, treat people kindly, work hard, and live frugally. After worshiping the three generations of ancestors and the kitchen god, the bride sits on the kang facing the wall to "sit for blessings" until the people who are sending the bride finish the banquet and leave, then she gets off the kang and eats the pig's head and pig's tail with the groom. The groom eats the pig's head, which means that the family is led by a man; the bride eats the pig's tail, which means that the wife lives in harmony with her husband. On the wedding night, the bridegroom eats noodles together, which means that the couple has a lasting love and a long life.