According to legend, in ancient times, Emperor Gao Xin fought with a vassal king for many years and was defeated repeatedly. Emperor Gao Xin had no choice but to pay tribute to the vassal king with gold, silver and treasures in order to seek a ceasefire. After many years, all the treasures were given away. Emperor Gao Xin then posted an imperial edict, saying that whoever could pacify the vassal king would be given half of his territory and the three princesses would be married to him. Panhu, the ancestor of the She ethnic group, took down the imperial edict, bit off the head of the vassal king and returned. At the wedding, Emperor Gao Xin dressed the three princesses as phoenixes and married Panhu King. This is the origin of the She ethnic group's wedding customs. The She people have preserved this wedding custom and passed it down from generation to generation. The She ethnic group mainly has four major surnames: "Pan, Lan, Lei, and Zhong (marrying into the family)". The traditional She ethnic group's wedding customs have strict requirements for spouses: intra-clan marriage is implemented, and people with the same surname cannot marry within five generations. Since the Republic of China, the She ethnic group and the Han ethnic group have merged, and their marriage customs have gradually become more Chinese. They can marry with the Han ethnic group, but the wedding still retains the traditional ritual process of the She ethnic group. The She ethnic group's wedding customs are not just a wedding, they also include the She ethnic group's songs, dances, customs, etiquette and beliefs. They are the carriers of the inheritance of national spirit and characteristics, and are also the epitome of the She ethnic group's thousands of years of history and culture. The traditional She ethnic group wedding has to go through the procedures of "proposing marriage, visiting the dormitory, asking for the birth certificate, matching marriage, pressing the circle, replying to the certificate, making a promise, being a cousin, being an uncle of the family, getting married, and being the first guest", and retains the tradition of "(marriage) customs are inseparable from songs", and "songs" run through the whole process from marriage proposal to marriage. Marriage proposal: The man and woman fall in love through singing, and after the parents and relatives discuss, if both parties are satisfied, the man's family will ask the matchmaker to propose marriage to the woman's family. Then, the girl and her mother go to the boy's house to see the man's house and learn about his character and family background. If both parties are satisfied, the boy's family will pound glutinous rice cakes for the girl to take back. After that, the boy's family will send a matchmaker with gifts such as noodles and sugar to the girl's family to ask for the engagement letter and match the marriage. Engagement: After the match, the boy's family will choose an auspicious day to send a matchmaker to the girl's family again to send gifts to reply. Soon, it will be settled, and the girl will be given a betrothal gift and a gift. The amount of the betrothal gift depends on the family background, and the gift is generally a gift cake, pig's feet, a rooster, and some clothes and accessories. Then, the boy's family will choose a specific date to marry and send a matchmaker to report it to the girl's family. Be a cousin: It is a special custom for She girls to go to their maternal uncle's house to sing with guests before getting married. The girl to be married will dress up as a wedding dress to visit her maternal uncle's house, visit relatives, learn songs, and sing songs, while the young men in her maternal uncle's village will gather together to sing She songs with the girl. The purpose is to let the She girls learn songs and practice before getting married, so that they will have more opportunities to participate in various singing competitions and social activities after marriage. Crying at the wedding: Before getting married, the bride will cry at the wedding, which is a ritual for the She bride to bid farewell to her parents' home. The bride sings the crying song while crying, and the song is like crying and complaining, revealing her gratitude for her parents' upbringing and her deep affection for her relatives and friends. Phoenix costume: On the wedding day, the aunt will comb the bride's hair into a phoenix style, put on a phoenix costume, and dress up as a phoenix girl, following the She ethnic group's tradition of worshipping the phoenix. Making things difficult for the in-laws: This is a unique part of the She ethnic group's wedding customs. The in-laws are usually played by a witty and outstanding singer. Before the marriage, the man invites the in-laws and the matchmaker to send the plate to the woman's house, and sing with the woman's relatives and friends. The woman's family will set up various "traps" to make things difficult for the in-laws until all the money from the in-laws is taken away. Worship in the hall: The She people believe that the bride has the lofty status of "the third princess", so the She wedding custom is "men worship and women do not worship", that is, the groom kneels and the bride bows in return. Being the first guest: On the third day of the wedding, the newlyweds return to the bride's home as a guest, recognizing the wife as a relative, which is called "being the first guest". Usually the newlyweds return home after two or four days, marking the end of the wedding.