Marriage customs of the She ethnic group in Jingning, Zhejiang. In the past, due to ethnic discrimination and oppression in the old society, the She ethnic group had to practice intra-ethnic marriage, and distant relatives with the same surname and generation could marry each other. Marrying a man and being a two-headed family are the characteristics of She ethnic marriage. When a man settles down in the woman's family, just like marrying a woman, the woman gives a certain dowry to the man's family. When a man goes to the woman's family, he must change his surname to the same as the woman's family. The man who marries into the woman's family is not discriminated against in the family and the village. Being a two-headed family means that both the husband and wife's families participate in production and support the parents of both families. If there are many children, they will be divided and inherited by both families. The wedding has many characteristics: when the wedding procession arrives at the village, the women of the bride's village use fir branches to block the road, indicating that they will sing songs in the evening; when arriving at the central hall, the bride invites four men to bow to the four people in the wedding procession, this ceremony is called "picking up snails", which expresses welcome; the bride invites the wedding procession for lunch, and the matchmaker sits at the first seat in the central hall, which is called "landing wine"; the groom invites the bride's relatives and friends for dinner, and the uncle sits at the head, which is called "inviting big wine". In the afternoon, Chilang holds the "borrowing pot" ceremony. Chilang holds a rice sieve with a red candle and a piece of meat and two pieces of tofu, bows to the kitchen god, and then uses riddles to borrow all the cooking utensils. The sisters-in-law hide all the cooking utensils that can be hidden, and will not take them out if they can't be called, and they have to borrow them all again. "Borrowing a pot" means that the groom borrows the cooking utensils of the bride to entertain guests. After borrowing, Chilang kills a rooster selected by the bride's family to "invite the ancestors" of the bride. When killing a chicken, it is stipulated that blood must not drip onto the ground. If a drop of blood drips onto the ground, a bowl of wine will be fined. Sisters-in-law often come to play so that they can have fun with the fine wine. At the dinner, a toasting ceremony is held. The female singer brings a barrel plate with a pair of red candles and a pair of wine glasses. The bride's sisters bring wine pots to accompany them. Starting from the chief singer, the singer introduces the name of the person to be toasted. Then the singer sings a toasting song: "A pair of wine cups are red, brought to the table, and the bride calls the guests. I announce that you have a pair of wine, and the wine feast is a pair." After singing, the sister fills a glass of wine and holds it with both hands to the guest. The guest puts a red envelope into the barrel plate, takes the wine and drinks it all. All guests must toast one by one, and each person is given a red envelope. Part of the red envelope money is used as the singer's salary, part is distributed to the bride's sisters, and part is taken by the bride to her husband's house to buy hats and silver medals for her children. Because the guests have to pay the red, this ceremony is also called "prying the frog." In the middle of the banquet, the female singer of the bride's side started to sing a duet with Chilang. The female side sang: "Yesterday, I heard that Chilang was coming. My sisters stood behind the door in pairs. My sisters went to build a road together. We built a big road for Chilang to come." Chilang replied: "Today I got up from the hut, packed up the southern goods (gifts) two or three times, packed up the southern goods cakes and noodles, and carried the flowers to my mother's cave." After the song started, they ate and sang at the same time. After the banquet was over, they continued to sing duets until the bride was about to leave. The songs sung included the marriage song, the marriage song, Chilang song, tea picking song, the marriage song, the loving couple song, etc. It is forbidden to sing unlucky content. Before the bride is about to leave, they have to sing "urging marriage songs", and of course, they have to "send off the song god" at the end. Another feature of the She ethnic group's wedding is that the bride marries at night and enters the husband's house at the hour of Mao. When getting married, there are cows stepping on the road in front, which means that everything about the bride must be new, and the road stepped by the cow is the new road. In the past, dowries included hoes, bamboo hats, palm clothes, thread baskets, fire baskets, etc., which reflected the She women's love of labor. Nowadays, with the development of society, intermarriage between She and Han, and between Han and She has become a normal thing.