The Mongolian people have two marriage systems: marriage by abduction and marriage by engagement. Marriage by abduction is a form of marriage in slave society. Before the 13th century, most Mongolian societies adopted the marriage by abduction system. For example, the marriage between Genghis Khan's father Yesugei Ba'atur and his wife Hoelun was a marriage by abduction. Marriage by engagement is a form of marriage in feudal society. After the 13th century, the Mongolian people entered the feudal society, and the marriage by engagement system was generally implemented. However, there are still remnants of the marriage by abduction system. In the wars between tribes, marriage by abduction or plundering is still common. Before young men and women get engaged, the man has to ask the woman for marriage. Before the founding of New China, it was usually the man's parents or the matchmaker who entrusted the man to go to the woman's family to ask for marriage. If the woman's family agreed, they could get engaged. According to the traditional marriage customs of the Mongolian people, the man must ask the woman's family for marriage many times before he can get the woman's promise. Volume 1 of "The Secret History of the Mongols" records: Yesugei Ba'atur led his son Temujin (i.e. Genghis Khan) to the house of De Xuechan to ask for marriage. De Xuechan said: "If you ask for it many times before you get it, you will be respected; if you ask for it few times before you get it, you will be looked down upon." Later, a Mongolian proverb was formed: "If you ask for it many times, you will be expensive; if you ask for it few times, you will be cheap." After the marriage proposal is agreed, the man will bring Hada, milk wine and five forks of sheep or a whole sheep to the woman's family to "make a promise". The woman's family invites relatives and friends to drink with the guests to indicate that the engagement is formal. After the young man and woman are engaged, the man's family will give the woman's family a gift, also known as a betrothal gift. The amount of the betrothal gift depends on the man's family's financial situation. In agricultural areas, gold and silver jewelry, cabinets, and clothes are often used as betrothal gifts; in pastoral areas, cattle, horses, sheep and other livestock are often used as betrothal gifts. Herders regard "nine" as an auspicious number, and the betrothal gift starts with "nine", from "one nine" to "nine nine", and the maximum number of heads cannot exceed eighty-one, and "nine nine" means longevity. If a poor herder does not have the betrothal gift of nine livestock, he can choose an odd number less than nine, such as three, five or seven livestock, but never an even number. The bride's family sends the daughter's wedding gift. The Mongolians are very particular about the dowry. The bride's family must send a corresponding amount of dowry according to the betrothal gift sent by the man. Usually, the dowry of the bride is more than the gifts given by the man to the bride's family. Therefore, there is a saying among the Mongolians: "You can afford to marry a daughter-in-law, but you can't afford to hire a girl." One of the Mongolian wedding customs. It is also called choosing a happy day. Before liberation, after the man and the woman were engaged, they would first ask the lama to divine, choose an auspicious day, and determine the date of the wedding. After the auspicious day was chosen, the man's family sent the matchmaker and relatives and friends to the woman's family with Hada, fine wine, candy and other gifts to discuss the marriage with her parents. After the negotiation, the man and the woman began to prepare for the wedding. Generally, the wedding room is cleaned, or a new Mongolian yurt is built, cattle and sheep are slaughtered, betrothal gifts, dowries and other wedding supplies are prepared, and relatives and friends of both parties are notified to come and congratulate. One of the Mongolian wedding customs. In the past, Mongolian weddings were very grand, and the traditional wedding custom of the man staying at the woman's house to get married was retained. The wedding is usually held the day before the wedding day. In a joyful atmosphere, the groom wears a gorgeous Mongolian robe, a colorful ribbon around his waist, a round-top red tassel hat on his head, high leather boots on his feet, and a bow and arrow. The best man also wears festive clothes. They ride on horses together, carry floats and gifts, and go to the woman's house to get married. When the groom arrives at the woman's house, he first walks around the Mongolian yurt and presents a "door-touching sheep" and other gifts to the woman's family. Then, the groom and the best man hold Hada and fine wine in their hands, toast to the bride's parents and elders one by one, and kneel down to pay homage. After the ceremony, the groom sits down to eat. In the evening, a five-fork sheep banquet is set up. The traditional ceremony of seeking the name and asking for the birthdate is held. The next morning, when the bride and groom set off, the bride is carried to the float by her uncle or uncle-in-law. The groom has to ride a horse around the float that the bride rides three times. Then, the bride and groom and the bride escort set off together. The Mongolian people attach great importance to wedding ceremonies. Although the forms vary from region to region, they are all very grand and lively. The general wedding custom in pastoral areas is: when the bride and groom return to the man's home, the bride and groom do not get off the carriage, but first circle the yurt three times. Then, the bride and groom both pass through two piles of raging fire and receive the blessing of the fire god. It represents the purity of love and the prosperity of the new life. After the bride and groom enter the yurt, they first worship Buddha and offer sacrifices to the kitchen god, and then pay respects to their parents and relatives and friends. After the ceremony, the bride's hair is combed by the combing Eji. After washing and changing clothes, they wait for the wedding banquet to begin. The wedding banquet usually features sheep backs or whole sheep banquets, and all kinds of dairy products and candies. At the wedding banquet, the groom holds a silver pot and the bride holds a silver bowl, offering Hada and wedding wine to the elders, relatives and friends one by one. The young men hold up the silver cups and drink happily; the girls sing loudly accompanied by the horse-head fiddle. The wedding banquet often lasts for two or three days before the relatives and friends leave one after another. The bride's family also has to keep someone to stay with the bride for one to three days. Sometimes, the bride's mother also comes to see the bride and stays for more than ten days. When they say goodbye, the mother and daughter hug and cry bitterly, expressing their reluctance to leave. It is an important ceremony in the Mongolian wedding. Although the forms of fire worship vary among Mongolians in different places, they are all indispensable contents in the wedding. After the bride is married to the groom's house, the first thing to do is to hold a fire worship ceremony. The bride and groom pass through two piles of raging fire and receive the baptism of fire, which makes their love purer, more faithful, and their life happy and happy, and they grow old together. The fire worship ceremony of the Durbet Mongolian people is unique. When the bride enters her husband's house, there is a blazing fire in the yard. The bride and groom will pour milk wine into the fire and kneel down to kowtow. The master of ceremonies stands beside and recites the "Ode to Fire": The flint discovered by the holy lord Genghis Khan, the fire preserved by Hoelun's mother, the fire of the nation from ancient times to the present. Please pray for the bride and groom! The sacred fire is the witness of your marriage; please kowtow for the bride and groom! The Buddha's light will continue your family line. One of the procedures for Mongolian marriage. Asking for the bride's name. Also known as asking for a title. It is an interesting playful activity. On the night when the groom stays at the bride's house, a five-fork lamb or whole lamb banquet will be set up in the bride's house, also known as a name-seeking banquet. The groom, the groom, the bride and her brothers, sisters-in-law, and sisters are all of the same generation and participate in this banquet. At the banquet, everyone teases the groom, forcing him to kneel or half-kneel, and ask for the bride's milk name or milk name. The bride is shy and doesn't say anything, or deliberately doesn't answer. The bride's sister-in-law and sisters don't answer either, intentionally delaying the time. At this time, the man's well-wishers and the woman's sister-in-law debate with each other and sing antiphonal songs until the woman tells her real childhood name, and the name-seeking banquet ends. Asking for a name is actually an intellectual competition, which expresses the intelligence of Mongolian young men and women. It is also called hat-grabbing. In the past, when Mongolians were getting married, the bride and the bride's escort rode on horses and chased each other, both wanting to get home first and become the winner. For this reason, both sides would have a hat-grabbing competition on the way. Usually, the bride's escort would try every means to grab the bride's hat, pick it up on the whip, or throw it on the ground, forcing the groom to get off the horse to pick it up, so as to slow down his speed. The bride's escorts covered each other and didn't let the bride's escort grab the hat. Along the way, they chased each other and played with each other, with a strong flavor of grassland life.