Chahar wedding is a manifestation of Mongolian culture and another representative of the civilized etiquette of the Mongolian people in Ulanqab. The marriage proposal begins with the proposal. When the man reaches the age of marriage, the parents will hold a proposal ceremony. The man's parents invite people who are polite and sensible to be the proposer, that is, the matchmaker. The Chahar Mongolians call it "Zagucha". After the matchmaker chooses a suitable girl's family, he first offers Hada to the Buddha, and then presents Hada to the elders of the girl's family and expresses his intention. Although the elders of the girl's family accept Hada, they will not express their opinions immediately and will wait for a reply. After the male matchmaker completes the etiquette, he returns to wait for news. The elders of the girl's family listen to their daughter's wishes and respond to the male matchmaker in a very short time. If the Hada is returned, it means that the marriage cannot be accepted. If it is not returned, it means that it is agreed and can be engaged. Engagement Chahar Mongolians call engagement "Hadat Tiebihu" (putting Hada), which means that the girl's marriage is set. On this day, the matchmaker and the fiancé of the man, along with several people who know etiquette, bring Hada, whole sheep, and gifts to visit the girl's parents, brothers, uncles, and other relatives. The girl's family warmly welcomes the man's guests and hosts a banquet. Engagement is to negotiate the girl's betrothal gift. The weight of the betrothal gift varies according to the difference in wealth. However, large jewelry earrings (called Suihe in Mongolian) are a must for the man. After sending the red card and placing the Hada, the man asks the lama or the master to choose the date of the wedding celebration based on the birth month and day of the two children (mainly based on the woman's birthday). The time of the arrival of the wedding party, the color of the daughter's (robe, hat), the color of the horse she rides and the direction of walking are detailed on red paper, and the matchmaker or the man's messenger is sent to deliver the card and betrothal gift to the girl to inform her, so it is called a red card. The Chahar Mongolians call it "Ulan Hudasu". When the girl's wedding is approaching, the girl's relatives and friends should entertain the custom of the girl who is getting married. The girl's uncles, maternal uncles and other relatives and friends should set up a sumptuous banquet to warmly entertain the girl who is about to get married. At the same time, they will invite girls of the same age from nearby or Benhot to their homes to accompany the girl to eat, drink and have fun. Before leaving, they will give her valuable gifts to wish her happiness and joy, and take turns to entertain her until a few days before her marriage. When she gets married, girls of the same age will surround the bride, meaning that the groom will not snatch her away. The man will take the bride away by "snatching the bride". Tea banquet (girl banquet) The night before the girl gets married, the girl's family will set up a tea banquet. To entertain the girl who is getting married. It is called "chailaha" (meaning to entertain with tea) in Mongolian. In fact, it is not just drinking tea, but a grand banquet specially set up for the girl, also called "girl banquet". At that time, the girl's parents, uncles, maternal uncles and neighbors will gather together, let the girl sit in the middle, and the mother will fill her daughter with tea. The girl will wear a new robe (without a belt) and accept everyone's gifts. After tea, a banquet will be set up. The groom does not attend the "girl banquet". During the banquet, the bride's parents fill the wine (silver bowl) and hold the hada to formally invite the in-laws' representatives. The men are called "Huda" and the women are called "Hudagai". They also invite decent women with parents and children to be the nanny or confinement nanny (who will live with the bridegroom's home for a few days or a month). Blessing the New House In the Chahar area, a ceremony to bless the new house is held before the wedding. The wedding party and the guests all participate in the ceremony to bless the new house. The blessing person or the master of ceremonies ties the ribbon hada on the skylight of the new yurt and offers milk food Deji on the rope. Holding the hada in hand, turning clockwise from the center of the skylight and from the lintel, the uni begins to chant the blessing words: Wishing for good fortune and happiness and health. Build a tall and white yurt under the silver-blue sky and on the golden land. Sprinkle delicious wine to welcome the bride. The wedding party must arrive at the bride's home before sunrise. When setting off, the groom must wear a work arrow and sprinkle a belt. The blessing person also blesses loudly. The general meaning of the blessing is: Blessings for good fortune and peace. Blessings for peace and happiness. In ancient times, the holy lord Genghis Khan married the intelligent Bortejin Chechen as his noble queen. When he set out, the sharp arrows shone with the majesty of the holy lord. The Mongolian word for the wedding procession is "Dahele, Mozhidahu". The number of people who greeted the bride was an odd number when they set out, and an even number when they returned with the bride (even means double happiness). The two sides agreed that the number of people who greeted the bride should not exceed nine. Before the bride-greeting people entered the house, the well-wishers and sisters-in-law of both sides had to conduct a humorous and interesting etiquette dialogue. Then the sister-in-law of the woman took off the bow and arrow worn by the groom and put it on the southwest top of the yurt. After that, the women's "Huda" was arranged in order, and the two sides greeted each other and warmly welcomed the men's bride-greeting people into the yurt. Fire reception ceremony When the wedding procession returns to the border of their own banner or sumu, they will welcome the bride-sending team and hold a "fire reception ceremony". The man's "Huda" toasts the relatives headed by the woman's "Huda" with a silver bowl. After receiving the wine, they offer a Deji kowtow to the blue sky, mountains and rivers, and the "gods" of Aobao. Everyone toasts each other, drinks a few sips, and then continues on their way. Wedding Banquet Chahar wedding banquet is grand and orderly. After the guests from both sides are seated, the wedding banquet begins. First, the man's sisters-in-law fill the wine and start toasting from the woman's "Huda" to express their welcome. The well-wishers recite the blessing in the relaxed and cheerful "Asar" music. Then, the man's parents toast and salute the guests from both sides with a silver bowl. Then, the newlyweds, led by their sisters-in-law, offer wedding wine to all the guests. The number of glasses of wine at the wedding banquet is determined by the "Huda" of both parties. At the Chahar wedding banquet, Chahar folk songs such as "Three Holy Songs", "Toasting Song", and "Happy Banquet" are sung. Traditional music such as "Asar" and "Magical Bogda" are also played. Make the banquet atmosphere grand and warm. After the toast, hold a whole sheep banquet, with a special person leading the whole sheep etiquette, and then let everyone enjoy it. After the wedding banquet, send relatives (except for the mother-in-law or the confinement nanny) back to the new house to say goodbye to the bride. If for some reason the girl's parents cannot visit their daughter three days later, send relatives to the bride and groom's home on behalf of the girl, give gifts to the daughter and son-in-law, and the daughter and son-in-law should hold a banquet to entertain them. When people who visit the daughter leave, they should put a stone on her clothes, which means "a married girl is precious in her husband's family, and the stone thrown is heavy when it falls to the ground."